BDSM is one of several overall names given to a collection of behaviors that involve bondage, spanking, domination, and other activities that are done in a safe, consensual, non-abusive manner and in an erotic context. BDSM is a form of erotic play that involves significant physical and emotional risks, and thus requires instruction in order to do so with reasonable safety. Accordingly, we make the following recommendations for beginners.

How can you tell if someone you meet is drug and disease free?

Unfortunately, it is impossible to tell about someone by just looking at them and even asking questions doesn't always bring honest answers. There are no 100% guarantees about this (or really anything else in life). We have found that by taking time after we meet someone and getting to know them we can have a pretty good idea of what kind of people they are and if they are "all that they ought to be" or not. A person can hide things about themselves, but generally not over a longer period of time. Also, it is important under any and all circumstances for you and your partner to use whatever level of protection you feel is necessary. If someone you meet isn't willing to use that protection - or even to discuss using it, they probably aren't someone you want to have anything to do with.

Swinging is a social activity. Whether attending a party, meeting with another couple privately, or engaging with a single person for a threesome, the participants talk with one another, eat, drink, and laugh, all with the purpose of becoming acquainted in order to sexually enjoy one another.